The Rundown on Boundaries

Monday was a busy day. I needed to run.  I needed to filter my thoughts and have some time alone with God. It was such a good run.
I loved the music of Eminim. He is pretty RAW. But his words speak volumes to me. They speak of recovery. I may not be in the same "Recovery" as him but I am in my own Recovery from many different things. I believe if we get honest there we all should be in some form of Recovery.

Tonight is our addiction meeting at The River. Tonight we really learned how we are all in some form of recovery and often we have new places we discover we have to recover from.
One of the ways to Recover from hurts and hang ups is to set up Healthy and loving Boundaries.
People who are not in recovery will run all over you. Sometimes it is intentional but often is is not.

Here was our lesson.

THE PURPOSE OF BOUNDARIES

Teach me good discernment and knowledge,
For I believe in Your commandments.Before I was afflicted I went astray,
But now I keep Your word. 

Psalms 119:66-67

1. God helps us to establish healthy boundaries through His Strength and Guidance.
2. Proper mental, physical, emotional, and spiritual boundaries enable us to focus on Gods love for us. As well as the ways in which He can use us to better serve the Body of Christ.

• How do BOUNDARIES protect us?  Protects us by guarding our feelings and thoughts,prevents us from becoming a victim and helps limit unacceptable behavior. 

3. Boundaries are NOT rules we can force on others.

• They are standards of conduct we set for our OWN benefit. 

4. Boundaries help us limit unacceptable behaviors. 
5. When we repeatedly let our boundaries be violated we become a VOLUNTEER not a VICTIM.

This was our lesson for tonight. I really enjoyed listening to the group. So often we are all just trying to find the perfect balance. You can not balance dysfunction. You can not control what others think of you but you can control how you engage in it by setting up healthy and LOVING boundaries. 


 Where RUNNING and LIFE collide: Boundaries
Gaining knowledge of our surroundings is important to being safe on a run. It is good to know where you are running and know the community you are running in. "We Are NOT in Kansas anymore"

Know your limitations and when you can and can not push them. While it is great to push your body to the next level know when to "Hold them and Know when to FOLD them!"
Poor "Melissa" from last week ended up injured on her EPIC run last week and now she can not run Wednesday. She looked amazing. She never let on she had any pain and now she is injured. I feel awful. 

Believe in YOURSELF. Get Healthy FOR YOU. You can not help anyone if you are not helping yourself first! Read, educate, gain knowledge on running and you will be more confident in your direction. 

This is just PART 1. It was great to hear the groups take on this. Do you make Boundaries work? Do you have a hard time following through with boundaries or do you have a hard time just designing them?


Anita