"Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, Who is in you, Whom you have received from God? ... So use every part of your body to give glory back to God..." 1 Corinthians 6:19-20

Thursday, June 30, 2011

The bond we share..a little bit of Family...

The Boys on the Boat..Bobby, Austin, Alec and Andy
Hanging with Uncle Bob..Captain Bob
I have not taken a lot of time to share my vacation. I am not going to go into details. I am just going to share what my family means to me briefly. Very Briefly..

My Family..8 days in Florida.
My Brother and Sister both live there..Less than 5 miles from one another.
They do not get along and this breaks my heart.

The Girls, Leeanne( Bobby Wife) Me, Heather and Gina
Growing up we lived through some horrible scenes. Growing up through adversity is an understatement.
Always a little sister
There are things that we saw or experienced that we have individually never told a soul and each one of us will probably take to our grave.

For me it was a living Hell. You are sometimes born into this hell with little opportunity to escape or you create your own. This Hell  can make a victim of you but only for a while if you let it. If you want to continue to live here there is always vacancies.
As for me, NO.
Each one of us found a route out of that Hell.
But in so many ways we took a little piece of Hell with us.
We stuffed it in a back pocket or a secret compartment where no one would find it. The problem is that You are as sick as your secrets.
Character defects are those little pieces of hell you have brought back. These are the Things that YOU THINK you have HIDDEN but TRUST me..EVERYONE sees them

My siblings, Robert, 7 years older..AKA Bobby my big brother..Forever he will be. He protected me, He saw things that I didn't because of the age difference. He defines our life differently. He is bitter still. He is a tough cookie, But I know there is a soft side in there. I  see him as a refection from out childhood. There is a kid in there, there is a boy in there that needs affirmation and affection..But He CHOOSES. It is His game. On His Terms, With His rules.

Georgina, 15 months younger and could not be any more opposite. She was the appeaser growing up.
She has always been told she is dumb. SHE is not- she just says dumb things out of insecurity and anxiety. She tries to hard. She is a perfect mess. She is perfectly and wonderfully made and rather than listening to Gods definition of her she listens to MANS.  The voice of others creates an echo of insecurities in her.
Hanging at the beach, Sisters.

The two of them live 5 miles apart yet communication is less than zero.

I was so happy to spend time with each one of them alone and a lot of time with them together.
I know we are all so different but we have one very common thread...our mother. We share many moments and hardships that we have grown through.
We have found an exit out of that hell we lived in.
I know we have entertained the devil thinking we control the shots, but let me tell you, when you pull him out of your back pocket...He Owns you.
The Harless Clan!


Wednesday, June 29, 2011

The Land of Familiarity..

Austin is away at camp. So it is just Alec. He is soo easy. Alec is not old enough to watch himself so it does not make it easy for me to go for a run.
I asked Alec earlier if he would like to go for a bike ride with me while I ran and he said NO. Can you believe it?! What a little turd. It sounded like a Great idea to me!
He liked the idea of playing video games better. Alec hardly played the last week with vacation and all and I think he was having withdrawals.
No biggie I was feeling a bit run down today and thought maybe I will get a 30 minute power nap in and then run this evening after dinner.

It was a great evening to run. Temperatures in the mid 70's, cloudless skies and no humidity or wind.
I went out almost directly after dinner.
Ranch Beans- Tricolor Organic beans, vegetarian beans, Laura's Lean ground beef, Onions and Brown sugar. slow cooked on burner for 3 hours...HIGH FIBER.
Chicken Kabobs
Laura's Lean burgers (96%) fat free. with whole grain Thins.
Fresh cantaloupe.

It sure felt good to know where you were running. To know what was around the bend or when to expect another hill. The gravel was familiar, the sounds of the cars were even comforting.
I know there are weirdos everywhere I just felt like I was more aware and comfortable with the ones back here in Michigan!

It was nice to have a little bit of my routine back. On my terms. In my field.
Not that  running hurts any less wherever your location is. Same pain, I think even worse because I push myself harder on my playing field. I am not on vacation any more, back to the grind as they say..

Distance-7.5 miles
Average pace-8min miles
Problems- Forgot to start Garmin, so it shows I ran 7.07 but I really was half mile farther.
Extras: 100 sit-ups & planks and stretching.


1. Ideal time for a power nap is between 2.00 pm and 4.00 pm, just after lunch.
2. 30 minutes of sleep is enough to relax. If you sleep more, you will end up with a headache and bad mood.
3.A very large recent survey carried out by the School of Public Health at Harvard University showed that people who regularly had a power nap are 34% less likely to die because of heart problems. This of course assumes that they also exercised, had a normal weight and a balanced diet.
4.Provides a motivation for exercise


Monday, June 27, 2011

Buckle up, Its going to be a bumpy ride!!!


I thought I would get a pen out and write down my thoughts as I am flying at 30,000 ft! My wonderful husband is kind enough to transcribe my chicken scratch and type this out for me! You see, I am not fond of flying.  Here are some of my thoughts as we ascend to "cruising altitude".....
As I am heading up, I unconsciously stop breathing.
My heart pounds a million beats a second.
I pray.
I think, "Would it hurt?"
I know I cannot control anything, so I try to think, "Just enjoy it."
Be calm.
Hold the hand of those I love.
Remember flying is safer than driving.
UGH! I am looking at the wing.
Breath Anita, 2.5 hrs, that's it!
My hands are so sweaty.
Look at everyone else, if they look calm, that's a good sign! Right?
I look back at recent airplane crashes and try to think statistically where our flight would be?
I wonder if God is not done with me yet?

Now I hear the overhead PA "ladies and gentleman, we ask that you stay seated and the flight attendants stay seated just for a few more minutes"....REALLY?!!
I look out the window and I see.....ALL CLOUDS! UGH!!! You just said we could all get up??!!!
I am sitting next to Austin, but I really want Andy...WAIT...WHAT WAS THAT WEIRD NOISE? Even Austin looks nervous now....
I want to be that little girl up there just looking around, or the guy looking outside like "lalala..." Or even the lady sitting next to me (she's fast asleep).
After 30 minutes, the captain comes on again to say "we ask that you continue to keep your safety belts on we are having some bad weather from Florida to....somewhere and it's going to be a bumpy ride".....
50 minutes into the ride she comes on again... "It's just not safe for us to come around for our service at this time..."
I didn't know if my hand shaking was from the bumpy ride or my nerves going bizerk! I quickly huddle back over my new running magazine and tried to refocus my attention....

I look at Austin and he is a painted picture of calmness...Painted..

Eventually things calm down and the snack cart makes its way down.
The Snack cart..a cart that contained more than snacks. It contained movement, people were walking around.. and it contained food..a great way to combat nerves is with calories!

Miles traveled in the air 1219
Estimated arrival 6:11pm


Today was my son Alecs birthday. He wanted to eat at Mcdonalds!
This is a special treat because he doesn't usually get this Favorite 5 Star Kid rated franchise for lunch OR dinner!
I really am a good mom..
Before I ordered I asked for a nutritional guide.
I went with:
Premium Grilled Chicken Classic-420 Calories/10 grams of fat
Small12 oz Wild Berry Smoothie with Yogurt-210 Calories/1 gram of fat
And I scavenged a few fries..the salty greasy flimsy fries were too much to pass up..Calories.??
SURPRISINGLY.. A Small Fry is only 23o calories & 11 grams of fat!


Sunday, June 26, 2011

 "Today, give a stranger one of your smiles.  It might be the only sunshine he sees all day."
Notice my arms not touching my sides...My own sweat grosses me out!

The calm before the storm..Florida was lighting up today.  Even though we arrived in Florida in their rainy season they are actually in a drought. Not having any rain on vacation is always nice but they really needed it.

We had a birthday party at the Condo for Alec, He turns 9. My sister decided to spend the night rather than taking the hour drive back home. This was good for me because I got to spend a little more time with her.

This morning I was up at 6am. My stomach was hurting and woke me up. I think when I fell asleep last night I never moved and my belly cramped up on me. I tried to go back to sleep but it just wasn't working out for me.
I quietly got up and made a pot of coffee.
Coffee makes everything better. I brought it back to bed with me and started reading. This was my morning

Everyone started coming out of their caves not long after. My wheels began turning...RUN RUN RUN...
HMM..My sister is here...Andy will want to run.... Sister+Kids= RUN WITH HUBBY!?!

I shared my brilliant idea with my sister, Gina..And she said " Sure, yeah.". I added " You could take the kids to the pool and we will meet you there." And again she said, "Ok, Sure."

This run was important because the day had rain written all over it! And having my sister there meant Andy and I did not have to take turns. We could both knock out our run right out of the gate.

There was just one other person that I had to share my idea with..And that was Andy.
Even though I run quite a bit slower with Andy I really like to have him to run with. I enjoy encouraging him, coaching him and having his companionship.
He likes running with me and I think this is the biggest factor of why I like to be with him.
He was still smiling here!

Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around.  ~Leo Buscaglia

Life is more fulfilling when you make someone elses day. When you can be the missing piece in someones puzzle. Or you can be the sunshine in their day. It often doesn't reap any other benefits other than just a  whisper in your ear. Quite often it is more work and sacrifice for you. Sometimes it is even more costly. 
But there is nothing better than seeing SOMEONE ELSES smile,  picking them up when they fall, having what they need, a word, a touch, a smile..
Our little bit of something can be somebodies little bit of everything!

The run was hot, humid and cloudy. I thought we were going to get soaked. We got soaked all right but not by rain. By mile 3 we were dripping in sweat. Soo nasty. It is not the stinky sweat you get from playing football or basketball. It is not the sweat that we connect with body odor. Not that I don't think it has potential to turn into that smelly stuff. But just  running 4 or 5 miles doesn't give it enough times to ripen!

I dropped Andy off at the pool with the rest of the family and continued on for another mile. When I finished I joined them at the pool.
Andy was in the pool running shorts and all. "Nita, jump in, it is so refreshing." He yelled.
I looked at the pool and knew there was nothing keeping from jumping in..well except for one thing...Bathroom break.!!
The bad thing about running in the heat is you get dehydrated easy. Normally you don't have to use bathroom. but for me I had to. After a couple kids and running I knew I had better go quick. One touch of the water and well..I wont say anymore.

There was no tip toeing in the water, It was ALL in. And ohh how it was soo good!!!


Time: 49:54
Distance: 5:23
Pace: 9.32
Fastest mile: 8:29
The payoff: Birthday Dessert at the Melting Pot with my son, Alec


Friday, June 24, 2011

Ending the night.. I do the things I do not want to do..

Well the prettiest part of the day was this morning.
My feet poolside this morning at 7:30 am~

I enjoyed chatting with my brother this morning for many reasons.
One of the biggest was because he wanted to. That was good enough for me. Opportunity. Take it and make the best out of it.

Well the day went weird. Rained. Great day for a movie.
Problem was it was a late afternoon movie. This meant that our drive back to Boca was going to be having us arrive about 8pm at the condo.

 And that's when things started to get sour.  Yeah, the best me I was talking about earlier..I messed that one up royally.

This stupid running thing sometimes steals my brains and turns me into a freak. It is the first thing I think of and the last thing often times as well.
The rain made everything mucky. It was not in my agenda.
Here are a few of the things I did not plan on this morning.
  1. I did not see us getting home as late as we did.
  2. I did not see myself eating almost a entire tub of popcorn...BUTTERED
  3. I did not see that it was going to still be raining
  4. I did not see that Andy and I would get in a scuffle about me running.
  5. I did not see myself being a brat about not getting to run.
  6. I did not see myself the way I was going to be..
 ROMANS 7:15 "For what I am doing, I do not understand; for I am not practicing what I would like to do, but I am doing the very thing I hate."

 That was me!! UGH..Yeah I got my run in. The run haunted me at how I behaved to achieve it. I couldn't think straight. All I could think about was Me..and getting My run in. I hate how I acted. The guilt of being a big baby. 
I did not run as far as I wanted. I ran with my phone, I ran a mile in the condo complex and I called Andy when I got to the complex.  

Sometimes it just stinks being a twirpy girl.  Running gives you endurance and stamina not the strength of Hercules or the attitude of a Saint. 

Thank God HE is not finished with me yet..I am a project in the works needing a lot of work! 

Average Pace:8.00
Fastest mile: 7:51

My feet are in the water..

Yeah, I am thinking maybe I should be putting my size 7's in my running shoes..but I think not. I think maybe the water in the pool feels pretty good this morning. The water is refreshing, the day is beautiful, This is the day that the Lord has made..
 For today I will be soaking it all up.
I Will try not to take for granted ANYTHING..
I will love my family all my family.
I will accept things for the way that they are and do the best I can and be the best I can inspite of it all.
Today I will tap into the best me I have in hopes of making a difference.

 The question.." What is touched by 18 pairs of hands before it is purchased?"
The Answer: A Hallmarks Card

I will be back later!
I am enjoying a moment with m y Brother Who surprisingly got up early this morning with me.. ....


Wednesday, June 22, 2011

Taking Turns..

A great day at the water park. So blessed. My sister in law won us 4 free tickets on the radio. By Answering this question"
"What gets touched by 18 pairs of hands before being bought?"
I will shoot the answer to you TOMORROW! And anyone who figures it out WITHOUT CHEATING I will do something special for them....!! Your answer has to be sent in the comment section!

I was just amazed at how much the boys never seem to get sick of the water. All day at the waterpark only to come back to the condo and them beg to go to the pool!

The pool worked out good though. Andy and I both wanted to go for a run so we did the take turn thing again. My Covert Mission was exploited by me when Andy read my blog yesterday!

So Andy went out first. Today was hot and humid but it also contained a life saving breeze. 91 degrees!
Andy looked  bad on his return. He was red faced, sweat dripping and voiceless. He did not have a good run. This was very intimidating to me. Looking at him had me spooked.

He met me at the pool where we had to hurry back to the condo and eat before I could go and it was already 6:30.
We all ageed on Tropical Smoothie. Quick and easy.
By the time we finished eating, or more like gorging ourselves I knew I had to high tail it in order to beat the nightfall.

Andy does not like me running in the dark and rightfully so. The reality is we do not live in a Beaver Cleaver World any longer. There are no more "Mr Rodgers Neighborhoods" left. You have to be smart and aware of your sourroundings at all times.

I left the condo at 8pm. My gut was bloated with my turkey bacon club from dinner. But I had no choice. I took off. The sun was going down and my opportunity to get 7 miles was gone as well. I would be lucky to get 6 miles in before Andy jumped in the car looking for me.
As I got running I was shocked at the energy I had in my legs with the heat and the activities of the day factored in.
I was thinking there was no way there was going to be any light outside on my way back in.
It is erected from fear. I begin thinking what would I do if someone came out and tried to get me. " Will anyone see me?"
With the right ingredients, for me, music, terrain and weather I was starting to feel my superhero qualities take form.  All that power started swelling in my head as well as my run.

"KING KONG AINT GOT NOTHIN ON ME'" Denzel Washington, Training Day
These Superhero images are very delusional. You see these ingrediants as stated above mixes with endorphins and past experiences really hypnotize you into thinking you are the next Jackie Chan or Rockie. There is a little bit of a Napoleon complex mixed in there as well. Realistically no matter how many times I "see" myself fighting off a perpetrator or out running the "bad guy" I am a puney 105 pounds on a 5'1 frame. I am a twirp even if I see myself at a "Latin Warrior" or the next Super Hero Sidekick!

There is one power I never leave home without. And that is the Power of Prayer. I took my powerless cape off and asked God to protect me and keep me safe. I asked him to send his Angels like strong pillars to wrap around me. To detour any people from my path that could threaten me. And to return me to my family safely.

And WahLa!!! God not only protected me but ALSO PROTECTED any bad guys from the wrath of Anita the Latin Warrior!!!
Sloans Ice Cream Boca Raton.

Distance: 6.03
Pace: 8:13
Time: 49:29
Bonus:The best part of running today was ICECREAM!!


Monday, June 20, 2011

Planes, Trains and Automobiles

My Airplane partner...lol..Check out the lady in the Background...HA HA
We started our morning with the shuttle service taking us to our airline.
Airplane to West Palm Beach.
Train to Boca Raton.
Automobile..Taxi to the condo.
Thank goodness for cameras on phones,,Cause By the time we got HERE..I had already lost our camera and never even used it!!

Boarding the Plane

Once we got settled in it was like a secret mission. Run.. I want to run. It is a new place with new scenery..I wonder if I can squeeze a run in with out everyone getting mad at me. How can I work this mission in with ease? I came up with a plan... I will offer Andy a run and take the boys to the pool..then see if Andy will want to return the favor. Surely he will.....

The skies were dark. The radar showed storms but that didn't quench the mission for either one of us. He bit. It was a go. And I was suiting up anxiously. I am not a fan of going to the pool especially with dark clouds but THE MISSION was much greater than storms, pools, or entertaining the boys for the hour.

I heard the thunder poolside. Lightning even shot across the sky a couple times. But I knew even Andy was taking full advantage of my generosity. Andy is a pretty smart guy, he knew there was a catch involved. But the love of running lets you take advantage of opportunities and also return the favor for others to try a piece of the pie.

When Andy returned he was about 20 minutes late and had a FULL face of bugs.
EWE!! Nasty No-See-Ums

Andy got lost and was attacked by the Floridian gnats. He was getting really acquainted with the infamous "No-See-ums".

I was a little concerned when I took off. The pesty No-See-ums were not part of my mission. But even as annoying as these little buggers appeared they were not going to interrupt my plans.
Well I too got lost ! My 3 miler turned into over 4 and 1/2. And as far as having a bug face..I lucked out. Yes I ate a few, scraped a few and was blinded for about a half a mile with these bugs splatting in my eyes.
A small price to pay for a cheesy grin and pure happiness. Getting lost was not so bad, neither were No-See-ums or 85 degrees and 90% humidity. Mission Run Boca Raton accomplished...Day 1!
Mission Accomplished!

The Rundown:
Average Pace-7.59


Sunday, June 19, 2011

Fathers Day - A Little of This and That

Fathers Day. Andy, Dad, Austin and Alec
Fathers Day. 
My dad, Thomas Gonzales. Died at 52. Alcohol and addiction. I was 11. 
I believe he was a good dad with a big addiction. 
2 things I know about my dad.
  • I know he loved me.
  • I know he loved my mother.
That is all I need to know. 
Psalms 34:18"The LORD is near to the brokenhearted And saves those who are crushed in spirit."
God supplies.
He is good all the time. I met my husband when I was 15. His father has always been good to me.
Andy was out of town  for work this past week for 4 days. His Dad called me. It was so weird. He called to check on me, to make sure I was OK. He called me as he would call one of his own. This is what Andy's dad does. He is a gift. God supplied for me a father. Someone to continue to teach me, influence me and love me.

Fathers day was good, very busy. heading to Florida in the morning to see my family.
Church,breakfast, packing, cleaning, running, and dinner at PF Chang's with the family. Mom and Dad included.
My 3 favorite Boys!

The Rundown:
Miles- 7.06
Average pace-8.06
It was a hot run. 
Did some Core work with Andy.
75 sit-ups
Push ups..modified and regular. Regular hurts!
Planks 30 seconds, and side blanks 30 seconds each..2 reps
Planks at the hotel. Andy was timing me.

My Two Cents Worth:
The CORE is defined as the muscular anatomy that controls and supports the spine and pelvis. (Some performance specialists define the core more broadly by including the shoulder blades and knees.)
CORE: The simplest way to describe why the core is so important is that it is the foundation upon which all movement is based. A weak foundation equals weak movement. A strong foundation equals strong movement.


Saturday, June 18, 2011

Bad Mood RUN!

I got home from work and was so excited to go for a run with Andy. When I arrived I could see he was already in mode. Andy was stretching out his IT Band with the foam roller.
"I want to go." I said as I walked in the room.
"Hurry up,"
With that being said I hustled and got my running clothes together. I grabbed my old green and black running shorts and a sports bra because it was so hot.

I was so excited to run with Andy that I did not give a fight when I saw him with my Garmin on AND my IPOD. Feeling exceptionally generous I even gave him a pair of my Nike Running socks. Once his size 12's squeeze into my size 7's they are basically a gift!

Somehow the boys ended up with us also. Both boys on bikes and Andy and I off running. Everything till that point was good. Then everything fell apart..

I  upset Andy when I turned around the first block to get my phone to take pictures..This is where it all started.
When I caught up to them Austin was on the side of the rode messing with MY bike.(I let Austin ride my mountain bike). It appeared a bolt was missing. HMMMM...He has broken my bike a few times before, but I swallowed hard and reacted softly.
Austin and I were a couple minutes behind Alec and Andy. By the time we caught up tho them Andy was already irritated so showing him the missing bolt was not going so well. Now Andy was really aggravated.
So how do I handle Andys bad attitude...I disassociate..POUT AND LEAVE!

It may be hard to believe but I was at my breaking point trying to be Little Miss Sunshine!
I was feeling really crabby now so why not just blow things out of the ball park and add a bloody nose to the mix!
I had nothing to sop up the blood because it was so hot all I had was my sports bra. I was trying to stretch this little bit of fabric to my nose with out any other "little bit of something" sneaking out. I think it did but you would have to have bionic eyes to see anything!

I am running alone now. I was so excited to be with my family less that 15 minutes ago. WHAT HAPPENED?
I gave everything away, It was 80 degrees and I had given all my favorite tools away, I didn't have any gum, or water either.
This is NOT what I had thought my run was going to be like. Then after running a 3 mile pity party I realized I do not have to let Andys bad mood ruin MY run.
I had all these expectations placed on this run and none of them were appearing the way I wanted.

I did 5 miles. I think.

I am smiling now.

I barked at Andy about an hour after we all got home. He took another 20 minutes for him to respond.
I was sitting on the floor in my nothing box playing HEARTS on my iPhone and could feel Andy on the bed staring at me.
" Nita, so what do you want me to say?, Fine you want me to say sorry or something?"
AHH...Somewhere in that mess he apologized in his own way. I know it was hard for him. Andys run was easier than him having to express those words.

For me, I  just enjoy running with Andy and it is a bonus to have the boys. Even the loss of my favorite running gear is a small loss in comparison to running with my favorite people. I can bend pretty good without breaking. But everyone has their breaking point.
It is how you respond that makes all the difference.

Sunday~ 12 miles
Monday~7.01 miles
Wednesday~5.13 miles
Thursday~6.47 miles
Saturday~5 miles
Total miles= 35.60


Friday, June 17, 2011

London Fog. Fear..

 I saw a picture of myself right before a race and I was so embarrassed of how I was captured on camera. I looked scared to death. My face was distorted and my fingers were clenched. I was looking outward with no real focus.
What if we had a camera following us around capturing our moments of fear and anxiety. Where would we be when that snapshot took place? What would we be doing. I hate what fear does to me. Most of the time running releases alot of my anxiety. During a race it is amazing how much I have, but all my fears are created by ME. 
What fears are you allowing to swell in your life? Are they necessary?
Did you know that the Bible tells us more than 350 times to "Fear not". If God has to repeat himself that many times don't you think he is trying to get a point across? God knows that worry short circuits our relationship with him. Worry directs our focus on our problems and situation rather than on God and his position.
Think of London Fog. The kind of thick Fog in a Sherlock Holmes mystery. The kind of fog many of you witnessed this morning. This fog that prevents you from hardly seeing your hand in front of your face. Or described "As thick as Pea Soup".
However, While the physical fog that handicaps us may appear dense and heavy, we are told by scientists that a fog bank a hundred feet deep and covering 7 city blocks is composed of LESS than 1 8oz glass of water! This mist is divided into billions of droplets and ultimately does not carry much substance.  Yet has the power to incapacitate us and bring a city to a standstill.
This Fog reminds me of our fear and anxiety. Our hearts and minds disperses the problem into millions and billions of fear droplets, blurring our vision of God.
Bringing our fears and anxiety to the Lord is often the last thing we think of when we are "spiritually fogged" in. God is the only one who has the power to disperse our fears and worry.
 Do you feel like you have come to a fearful crawl unable to see Christ through your Fears? Take a look at the statisics below and see where your worry and concern are place!
What we worry about.
40% are things that will never happen
30% are about the past-which can't be changed
12% are about health-which gets WORSE with stress
8% are about real issues that can be solved
Supportive Verses
Proverbs 3:5-6"Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. 
 In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths"
Philippians 4:6-7 "Be careful for nothing; but in every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God. And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.